Sex for the first time?
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Sorrry for the gross question =//
Im 17 and not sexually active in any way, at all. But I have like, masturbated a bit.
I have really bad incontinence, and have done since I was born, and I suffer from really bad constipation as well, the doctors are still unsure why, and trying out different treatments on me all the time.
Would my boyfriend be able to tell that im constipated when fingering/during sex?
I don’t actually think im ready for sex yet, Ive been with my boyfriend for about 2 and a half weeks now, and we’re still sort of in that awkward stage, but he’s really, really experienced, and Im not. He know’s im a virgin, and that Ive hardly ever done anything sexual, and he’s not pressuring me, but I still feel pressure, because all of my friends have had sex, I feel like the odd one out, how do I deal with this?
Everyone is expecting us to have sex, including him, soon, and i dont feel comfortable discussing it with him yet.
Also, I am afraid that I am too "tight" , so it might not "fit" inside of me, if that makes any sense.
Im a really paranoid type of person, does anyone have any ideas how I can "check" if im normal down there?
Thanks, and sorrrrry if this question is awkward or gross or whateverrr 
x
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The wall of the vagina and the wall of the anus do back into each other, so if you insert your own finger inside when you are constipated, you will feel what he feels – yes he will feel it with his finger.
2 1/2 weeks is too soon to have sex and you should wait until you are really ready.
The first time can be painful when the hymen breaks upon penetration. There can also be some blood from spotting to actual bleeding. Not all girls bleed and not all have pain. I never bled but there was a lot of pain. There doesn’t have to be blood or pain, but due to the fact that most guys don’t know what they are doing and girls ‘give in’ to sex to please their partner instead of waiting until they are really ready and aroused, pain happens even if blood doesn’t.
The hymen is the thin membrane that sometimes covers the opening to the vagina if you’re a virgin. Even if you haven’t had sex, the hymen can do a bit of a disappearing act due to an overzealous workout at the gym, horseback riding, tampons, and even passionate "heavy petting" with your boyfriend. (It’s not an impenetrable barrier, anyway, as it has holes to allow menstrual blood to escape.)
For some, the first few times might make you feel sore, as the vagina has been an unused muscle or even hurt if you aren’t properly lubricated, or if the guy is in a hurry, doesn’t arouse you and your body isn’t ready.
Relaxing, foreplay, (oral sex, touching, kissing, etc) being fully aroused or better yet, you having an orgasm FIRST or using a lubricant like KY-Jelly or Astro-Glide can help.
Constipation deal with the anus, not the vagina. Duh.
you should not have sex with your bf of 2 weeks.
you should atleast wait a little longer.
and soo what if your friends allready had sex; you can allways LIE to them and tell them you did it ; its not like theyr gonna be watching you when you do it ; to know if you did it or not. lmao
&& umm im pretty sure he wont figure out ur constipated.
but i suggest not doing it with him just yet.. i mean Again you have only known eachother for 2weeks..
if you have only been together 2 weeks i would definately wait ! relationships arnt all about sex!
you shouldnt feel pressure because all your friends have, i bet they were younger than what they were ment to be the first time they had sex. if he cares about you that much he wont force you into anything, if he trys anything, just tell him no and that your not ready and he should respect that. you wont be too tight (: it will proberly hurt the first time you have sex just make sure you have abit of foreplay before hand, your realy wet and you take the sex slowly. i am sure your normal ‘down there’ sweetie. relax and dont rush into anthing, just enjoy spending time with him like cuddling up watching DVD’s, going to the cinema, beach, out for meals and stuff (: relationships are about spending time together and having fun, not just sex. i would say that sex is the least important thing. i wish i had waited untill i was 17 to have sex, good on ya for waiting! dont stress (: x
If you’re not ready then you’re not ready. Don’t do it! It doesn’t matter whether your friends have all done it or not, really, it doesn’t matter! Don’t feel pressurized into doing something you don’t want to do just yet!!
I know it sounds cliche, but if he likes you then he will wait! Also, 2 weeks isn’t a very long time to be with someone, I would wait a little longer anyway even if you felt you were ready.
And he won’t be able to tell if you are constipated, unless you tell him!
As for worring about being too tight, don’t be, a penis is naturally meant to fit into a vagina! Yes it might be a little bit uncomfortable at first, especially if he is a rather large guy, but if you are happy and wanting sex, then it won’t be a problem. But if you are nervous and not really wanting to do it, then it won’t be enjoyable for you!
Don’t be paranoid, I pretty much guarantee you are ‘normal’ down there. But if you are worried something is wrong, then you can always take a trip to your doctors!
First of all, you didn’t ask a "gross" question. Sex is normal, don’t feel bad for being curious and wanting to be informed.
I don’t think incontinence will affect your experience other than perhaps making you feel uncomfortable and unable to relax. I really doubt your boyfriend would be able to tell.
If you’ve been with this guy for 2 weeks, do you honestly trust him enough to be your first? Do you trust that he’s going to go out of his way to make the experience as pleasant and non-distressing as possible? These are things you should consider, and definitely talk to him about beforehand. However, since you said you don’t feel comfortable with TALKING to him about sex, you probably should wait.
Please don’t feel pressured by friends and peers, though. Do things at YOUR pace, when YOU feel like it.
As for the "tightness" goes.. it will probably be uncomfortable the first time you have sex, because unless you’ve used a toy like a dildo, there hasn’t been anything as big as a penis in there before. But if this guy is as experienced as you say he is, he should be good at foreplay and stimulating you so that your body is relaxed and your nether regions are naturally lubricated.
I hope this helps!